Sometimes you just know. Other times, no matter how hard you try, you just can’t stop being with that person, even though there are so many problems and issues.
But when does enough become enough? At what point do you realize there’s nothing left to fix and salvage from the relationship?
It’s a hard decision to make because undoubtedly, you care deeply for the person, but there are just too many things conspiring against you.
That’s why, if you are experiencing or seeing some of the following things in your relationship, it might be time to end it for good:
1) No effort on their part: If you’re doing 80% and they’re only doing 20%, it doesn’t matter how hard you work on the relationship. If they’re not pulling their weight and trying to make it work as hard as you are, you’ll eventually get tired and frustrated.
If you feel like you’re making all the effort and they’ve given up, there’s simply no way to carry on a relationship. After all, it’s about two people coming together to make a lasting bond, not one person pulling the weight of the other.
2) The bad times far outweigh the good: Do you fight all the time? Are you constantly bickering, shouting, giving each other the cold shoulder? If it seems to you that the bad times and the arguments are all you seem to be experiencing, then perhaps it’s time to move on.
Of course most couples have lots of good times—that’s why they’re together in the first place. But if all you ever remember are the bad times and the good memories seem to just be fading with time, then that’s a signal that the relationship probably wont be getting any better.
3) You’ve got nothing to talk about: Do you ever have anything left to say to that person anymore? Do your conversations always seem dull, lifeless and more of the same over and over again?
That’s a sign that you’ve grown tired of each other and don’t have very much in common anymore. And if there’s a universal component of what makes a couple happy, it’s being able to communicate with each other.
Without that, you’ll find yourself in a boring and lifeless relationship, and life is much too short to spend it with someone you find as dull as a rock.
4) Core Disagreements: Is he or she firmly against marriage or kids? Or do they never want to movie out of state, or get a stable job?
If these are important issues to you and you don’t agree on these things now, there’s a high probability that they wont change their minds in the future, no matter how much you poke and prod them, trying to change their mind.
If there are issues that are very close to your heart and are integral to who you are and how you think—and those are the very issues that you cant agree on, then it’s time to end it. If you can somehow compromise, then it could work out, but most times, people stay stubborn and unflinching in their ideals.